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Whatever happened to “First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes the baby in the baby carriage?” Call me crazy, but the order of things is completely out of whack or non existent altogether for most people now. There was a time when men and women in their 20s and 30s dated and fell in love. They got engaged, married and had kids. Nowadays, there MAY be some love involved, but there also may NOT be. People like each other enough to spend some time together and exchange bodily fluids and BAM: a baby is on the way. Now I’m not saying that all relationships that result in children without a marriage certificate are bad situations for the adults or for the children. In fact, some marriages with children are unimaginably bad situations for all parties involved. What I AM saying is that it seems like people no longer want to ensure there is a foundation built before starting a family. Shouldn’t a man and woman be sure that they can live with each other without havoc in the household before bringing a life into the world? Can the bills be paid? Is there health insurance? Day care? Living space?
Speaking for me and me only, I want to make sure that I can care for my family without having to ask any friends or parents for help. I’ll welcome the support, but my family is my responsibility. No one else’s. If I can’t handle it, I’m not ready. I can make it happen if I have to. Women can make anything happen. We do it everyday at work and at home. However, if I can make things more stable and prepare beforehand, why not do it? My unborn baby deserves two parents who at least like each other, healthy food, clean clothes, safe daycare and a less stressed mommy, right? I still believe in marriage and want it as a rock first.